Post-Election Self-Care for Black Women: Navigating Emotions and Staying Grounded

I strategically chose to be out of the country during what I imagined to be a racially charged election cycle. Of course, in preparation, I had already done my part—I voted early, participated in phone banking, sent postcards, and talked with friends and family about our options. As I left, I felt optimistic and hopeful that our next president would serve as a leader for all, someone who could unify and uplift.

But on the morning of November 6th, as I awoke in Panama and checked the results, I was devastated. My heart was broken. There was an overwhelming sense of disappointment, and I’ll admit, I shed many tears throughout the day. And the next day. And the next. I took some comfort knowing I wasn’t alone. Many other Americans—and people worldwide—were just as astonished and disheartened by the choices made at the polls.

This isn’t a post about election controversies, Project 2025, or the challenge of seeing people support candidates who promote oppressive policies under the guise of economic concerns, Christian ideology, or "family values." Instead, this is about self-preservation and protecting my mental health. It’s something I believe is essential for myself and for many of my clients navigating these same heavy emotions. And in this time, I am throwing my arms around those who need me the most—those struggling, those grieving, those processing disappointment, and those looking for hope.

Here are some practices I’ve leaned on, and I encourage my clients to do the same:

Setting Boundaries Around News Consumption: The constant flow of information can easily become overwhelming. I’ve set specific times to check the news and social media to help limit emotional overload. Being selective about when and what I consume allows me to stay grounded and focus on what’s within my control.

Allowing Space for Emotions: Feelings of sadness, disappointment, and even anger are natural, valid responses to events that affect us deeply. I’ve leaned on journaling as a tool to process these emotions in a safe, judgment-free space. For my clients, I encourage them to find outlets that resonate with them, whether through writing, art, or conversations with trusted loved ones.

Seeking Community and Safe Spaces: Connection is essential in times of emotional distress. Whether I reach out to friends or participate in community discussions, there’s strength in being with people who understand my feelings and concerns. Safe spaces allow clients to express and process their emotions openly and find support among others who share similar experiences.

Recharging Through Routine (and Rest): The basics can be grounding during challenging times. Returning to daily routines—like enjoying a hot cup of tea, taking a morning walk, or reading—helps bring stability and a sense of control. But sometimes, rest is just as vital. Napping, resting, or simply allowing my body to take a break has been an essential part of my self-care routine. Many clients find that taking time for proper rest or even a brief nap can provide much-needed mental and physical restoration during stressful times.

Focusing on What We Can Change: I continually reflect on how I can contribute to positive change, whether through advocacy, community engagement, or simply supporting my loved ones. Focusing on what I can do, however small, helps me feel empowered. I encourage clients to find their own meaningful ways to contribute to change, allowing them to channel their emotions into constructive action.

Self-preservation and mental health are not optional—they’re essential. Taking these steps has helped me stay grounded through these challenging times, and I hope that for those of you feeling similarly disheartened, you’ll also find ways to prioritize your well-being. Only by caring for ourselves can we gather the strength to work toward the changes we want to see in the world.